A Story of Love and Loss: I got an email from someone with a problem they want advice on. They shared their story with me, and I want to share it with you. If you have any ideas or advice, I’d really appreciate it. Here’s her story:
A Story of Love and Loss
“Losing loved ones is never easy. I’ve experienced my share of heartache – from losing family members to the devastating loss of my first love. But nothing has impacted me quite like the passing of someone I dated years ago.
We had a tumultuous relationship, marked by a painful breakup that left wounds unhealed. Despite our time apart, I always held onto hope that someday we could reconcile, that we could clear the air and find closure. But fate had other plans.
When he passed away unexpectedly last year, it shook me to the core. Even though we hadn’t spoken in years, his absence left a void in my life that I couldn’t ignore. It made me question everything – our relationship, our unresolved issues, and what could have been.
I found myself grappling with feelings of regret – regret for not reaching out, for not making amends while there was still time. I wondered if he held a special place in the spirit world, if there was some deeper connection that transcended our earthly bond.
In search of answers, I turned to a medium for guidance. I hoped he would come through, that his spirit would offer me solace and closure. But he didn’t, leaving me with more questions than answers.
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Now, I’m left wondering if I’m just overthinking things, if my feelings are simply a product of regret. But one thing is for certain – his passing has changed me in ways I never expected. It’s forced me to confront my own mortality, to ponder the mysteries of life and death in ways I never have before.
So, as I navigate this journey of grief and self-discovery, I hold onto the memories of our time together – the good and the bad. And I find comfort in the belief that somewhere, somehow, he’s found peace. what do you think?!”
This is my advise to her: A Story of Love and Loss
It sounds like you’re carrying a heavy burden of grief and unresolved emotions. Losing loved ones can be incredibly difficult, especially when there are unresolved issues from the past. It’s natural to feel a range of emotions – from sadness and regret to confusion and longing.
The loss of someone you once cared for deeply, even if you weren’t in contact at the time of their passing, can stir up a complex mix of emotions. It’s not uncommon for their absence to have a profound impact on your life and your sense of self.
You mentioned feeling changed as a person since his passing, which suggests that his death has had a significant impact on you. It’s possible that the unresolved feelings from your past relationship are resurfacing in the wake of his death, adding another layer of complexity to your grief.
As for your thoughts about the spirit world and whether he holds a special significance to you, it’s natural to seek answers and closure in times of loss. However, it’s important to remember that grief can sometimes cloud our judgment and lead us to search for meaning where there may not be any.
Visiting a medium can be a way to seek comfort and closure, but it’s also important to approach it with an open mind and realistic expectations. Not receiving the validation you were seeking from the medium doesn’t necessarily mean that your feelings aren’t valid or that he didn’t hold significance to you.
Ultimately, grief is a deeply personal journey, and there is no right or wrong way to experience it. It’s okay to feel a range of emotions, including regret, longing, and confusion. Lets plan a call meeting, and it’s okay to seek support and guidance from others as you navigate this difficult time. If you’re struggling to cope up, consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor who can also help you process your feelings and find healing. You don’t have to go through this alone.
Comment from Mary Ann, published with her permission: A Story of Love and Loss
Love and loss are absolved by truly letting go. Regret, often fueled by the ego’s self-indulgent reminiscence, can rewrite our experiences, making them seem more two-way than they were in reality. We may think, “I could have done more, said more, helped more, felt more,” but this is often untrue. It’s a way of saying, “If only I were as wise then as I am now, I could have done things differently.” However, dwelling on such thoughts only inflates our ego with regret. True regret lies in realizing that we were not fully present in those moments.
We came to this existence to challenge ourselves to be our true selves. Despite the apparent suffering and pain, we are here to experience it all, with some choosing seemingly harsher lessons than others. Those who suddenly leave this world teach us the hardest lesson of all: letting go.
Living in the poignant and ever-present moment is how we honor others and ourselves. By being attentive and inquisitive, we make the most of each moment, knowing that anyone can leave this realm at any time. This awareness ensures that we have no regrets when the time comes unexpectedly.
Life may feel like swimming upstream in shark-infested waters with only one arm working and a heavy weight tied to us. Yet, our test is to achieve sympathetic harmonic vibration with other sentient beings, creating new light in a world that encourages isolation.
Isolation is created by class, heredity, and religion, all built on fear and supported by various calamities. When we seek money, we are not being true to ourselves. Realizing this is the hardest truth of life.
Rose Halloway’s comment: A Story of Love and Loss
I’m sorry for your loss. Your friend’s spirit is in the afterlife. The spirit world is different than here on Earth. Time doesn’t exist there as we know it.
There is no pain, no fear, no feelings of regret. You, however, are having feelings of regret for not having closure with your friend. Unfortunately, he died before this could take place.
And from how you describe both of your individual feelings, you probably never would have achieved closure. We all have an opportunity for reincarnation after death. Perhaps you will meet each other in another lifetime and resume a relationship.
There is, however, no guarantee of this. Most memories of our previous lives are vanished. There are, however, some who have flashbacks or distinct recall of past lives.
I would advise you to try and move past this. Continuing to think about what could have been is defeating.
Move forward and make new friends, possibly even a new relationship with someone. The medium you saw was unable to contact him to come through, because he’s unable or unwilling to.
It requires a lot of energy for a spirit to do this.Live each day with joy and hope. Look forward to tomorrow. I wish you peace and contentment.
Christine La: A Story of Love and Loss
You have a unhealthy soul tie to this person that needs to be broken. A soul tie is a spiritual connection or spiritual covenant between yourself and another person you have a relationship with. An unhealthy soul tie, means a part of that person is left with you, in this case it has left a negative influence on your soul.
In cases where someone has multiple partners (outside marriage) they are left with multiple soul ties attached to them, which contributes to a fragmented soul (good and bad). The biblical application of a soul tie is referred to as ‘becoming one flesh’ and ‘knitted together’ (1 Samuel 18 is an example between David and Johnathon). A sexual soul tie is a strong soul tie to have and the one you have with this person, has an unhealthy foundation, in that there is bitterness (during the breakup) which is bad spiritual fruit and unforgiveness in the other person towards you.
Additionally you were unmarried therefore sex outside marriage brings about a spiritual discord (and invites demonic oppression) because it goes against God’s design for creation. Unforgiveness is a spiritual stronghold and the person probably condemned you and made some sort of vow against you, which further deepens the unhealthy soul tie (condemning you is bit like a spiritual curse). To remove it, do the following:
- confess to God the unhealthy soul tie – sexual sin/fornication, bitterness, bad breakup, the unforgiveness you have for yourself for your part (forgive yourself, its ok we all make mistakes and God is so kind to forgive you) and then confess the unforgiveness and bitterness held by the other person
- Repent for all the above the bad choices
- Renounce the unhealthy soul tie and break it in the name of Yashua (Jesus Christ)
- Ask God to send back any part of that person that is attached to your soul that has as become part of you and then ask for any part of yourself that was attached to that person, to be returned to you.
- Ask God to rebuke any demonic attachments associated with the soul tie
- Thank God for healing that part of your soul and bring you peace.
Hope this helps!
Angelika schmid: A Story of Love and Loss
I think a part of it is because you you wanted to make it right and seeing him around always reminded you of this fact.
From what you wrote the break up sounded like the toxicity of the relationship made it impossible to continue even if you did want to give him another chance.
Some people never give up a grudge and I know that some men would take it being broken up with like a huge blow to the ego rather then we just can’t get along.
In a way him refusing to speak with you saved you from another round with him. Some men will try to get you back just so they drag you to a hotter hell then the first time you made up.
I know a lot people in abusive relationship stay trying to make it work for years only to finally realize years later it won’t work because the other person refuses to change, meet your needs, act responsible.
The reason I stayed in now almost 20 years relationship is because I was programed to think that If I kept trying different ways that someday he would realize I loved him becoming my husband, soulmate.
Now I am just have 20 years of loving a person who learnt he could do whatever he wants laugh in my face now leaving me years of awful memories, mental health problems, insane amount of physical health problems, abuse, having to rebuild myself, wasting all that money, time, youth, energy, on some who will never give back what I invested in him.
If you had stayed you mostly likely would ended up like me.
I know it would been nice to make peace with him but some people are just not able to get there no matter what or how well you treat them.
I have heard that some people just stay the same after death while others heal from the state of unconditional love that is in heaven. It sounds like he chose to stay the same and it might be a blessing in disguise that he did not come to give you the peaceful closure your heart craved.
You did the right thing for your self. Trust that!
Do yourself a favor think of his soul finding peace and give yourself grace, compassion you give others trying to let go of the regretful ending. Everything happens when It needs to some just are not able to do it in one life time. It is ok to leave some messes just be…
Reborn Evelyn: A Story of Love and Loss
After losing your first love and now the second person you had a relationship with, you are feeling survivor’s guilt. Somehow you feel guilty that you are alive and they are not. You also may have held on to some feelings for this person that you were not consciously aware of. I would urge you to seek counseling, otherwise it may be difficult to bond again. Good luck.
