Differentiating weak Minded from A Strong Minded person.
What are the signs of a weak minded and a strong minded person?
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines someone who is weak-minded as lacking in judgment or good sense, foolish or feeble-minded.
These are all true, but what are the signs that you are a mentally weak person? How do you determine if you lack good sense of judgment? How can you tell if you are foolish or feeble-minded?
I would like to share how to question yourself and assess if you are a mentally weak person. I have identified some signs that can show clearly if you are indeed someone who is mentally weak.
Apart from Merriam-Webster’s definition, I strongly believe that low self-esteem and low self-confidence is at the heart of mental weakness.
When you know what you are worth and you are confident, you are more likely to make decisions that reflect that confidence. You don’t really care what others think and you are even capable of setting aside your own feelings to do what must be done.
If you know that you are fairly confident and strong-willed, you are in a good place. But if you are not quite sure and would like to know what are the signs of a person who is mentally weak, read on. You might just discover a thing or two about yourself!
1. You can’t make up your mind when there are choices.
One of the most obvious signs that you are mentally weak person is that you struggle to make decisions. It’s common for people to have a hard time at arriving at a decision when there are too many choices.
But a mentally weak person struggles to decide even when there are only two choices. You hate having to choose and you take a long time to do so. If you can, you avoid making a decision altogether by delegating it to someone else.
One of the most obvious signs that you are mentally weak person is that you struggle to make decisions.
It’s possible that you do this because you are not quite sure what’s right in general or what’s right for you. It’s also possible that you just don’t want to be held accountable for the choices you make.
2. You don’t tolerate pain.
Nobody likes pain and certainly, no one goes looking for it. But if you go out of your way to avoid pain, you just might be someone who is mentally weak.
If you don’t go to the dentist and take care of that bad tooth out of fear, or avoid medical checkups due to extreme fear of needles, you are basically underestimating the amount of pain you, as a human being, are designed to withstand.
Another related sign is unbridled anger toward anyone who suggests you to take a certain action that might be good for you in the long run but painful in the immediate future.
3. You give in when you’re tired.
Another obvious sign of a mentally weak person is that they give in easily when they are tired. Let’s say you decide to exercise every day after work. You buy a new pair of sports shoes, sign up for a gym membership, and even get off work early. You actually turn up at the gym for the first few days or even weeks.
But the moment you start feeling fatigued after a long day at work, you give in. You tell yourself you deserve a break. After all, you have been working out daily. Deep down though, you are not really tired. You just wish you don’t have to exercise and you want to pamper yourself.
4. You’re afraid of doing things alone.
A mentally weak person rarely takes the initiative to do things alone. Whether going on a trip abroad, having dinner at a new restaurant or watching a favorite movie at the cinema, you would never do it alone.
You will actively look for someone to tag along with, but if you can’t find someone to go with you, you’d rather let go of your desires than going it alone.
When you take a deep look at yourself, you realize that there are a lot of things on your wish list you haven’t done because you are waiting for the company.
5. You find ways to avoid hearing the truth.
Another common symptom of a person who is mentally weak. They do their best not to hear the truth about themselves and facts that can shatter their beliefs.
If you always avoid hearing what others have got to say about your relationship, your personality or your drinking habits, it’s possible that you are afraid that you might not be able to handle the truth.
And the truth might mean having your heartbroken, stepping out of your comfort zone or making a hard decision.
You might be very excited by a choice you have made in the beginning, but the moment someone begins to ask a few questions, you are not so sure anymore.
6. Weak minded People can change your mind easily.
When a person with or without an agenda presents alternative viewpoints, you hadn’t considered before, you begin to wonder if you made the right choice after all.
You also become insecure very quickly when you realize a majority of others in your position had chosen a different option than yours. Often though, it just takes a few strong suggestions to change your mind to follow someone else’s wishes.
Even if you had thought things through carefully before you made your decision the first time around.
7. People’s opinion can ruin your day.
If you are a mentally weak person, the opinion of others can easily ruin your day. Any negative comment, from criticism on how your hair looks to a harsh questioning of your integrity, could make you sulk for a long time, sometimes even days.
You don’t possess an internal mechanism to remain objective and think positively. As a result, you become bitter or withdraw from others. Any attempt by others at cheering you up or putting things into perspective is met with sarcasm and negativity.
8. You forget old friends when you find new ones.
One of the signs of a mentally weak person is that they only have fleeting affection for the people they love. And not only with friends, but also with a significant other and family.
It is easy for someone more fun or with a better car to change their mind about who to spend the evening or weekend with. Often, they forget old friends in favor of someone or something that gives them more pleasure.
They are incapable of holding on to good relationships since someone better always comes along, even if they are completely wrong.
They only remember their old friends or an old relationship when they are disappointed by their new friends or love. But only for as long as someone else comes along.
They only remember their old friends or an old relationship when they are disappointed by their new friends or love.
9. You complain about everything.
Everyone complains. But if you are always complaining about everything, it’s possible that you are deeply unhappy and mentally weak. It takes a certain amount of willpower to accept things as they are and experience contentment despite what you think or feel.
Most people are capable of making the best of a bad situation without complaining too much. As a result, they are more positive and open to the fact that good things can come from a bad situation or experience.
10. They don’t say no even when they want to.
One of the most obvious signs of a mentally weak person is their inability to say ‘no’ even when they want to. Sometimes it’s because someone manages to persuade them into saying yes.
But most of the time, it’s because they tell themselves that they cannot hurt the other person’s feelings or that it’s the right thing to do or that’s what’s expected of them. As a result, they resent their decisions later. Even then, they do not step up and say what they really want to say.
If you are always exhausted or doing someone else’s work, you have to find out what is the motivation behind it.
11. You don’t bother pushing yourself for anything.
On the other hand, it’s also a sign of mental weakness when you don’t bother pushing yourself to achieve something. Its one thing to push yourself to please others, but quite another to push yourself for what you want.
If you never force or inconvenience yourself to learn new things, sharpen your skills at something, or you stop being motivated after securing a job, you could be mentally weak.
There is nothing more you want than to fall back into your comfort zone and do the bare minimum to survive.
12. You resist change vehemently.
There are many reasons for people to resist change. And in fact, a lot of people resist change and resist them vehemently. Change at work, change with our daily routine, change in relationships, and change in environment can all make us uncomfortable. In some cases, even fill us with anxiety.
But if the change is caused by an external force over which you have no power, there is very little you can do to resist that change.
If you are incapable of looking at the other side of change and assess how it might benefit you, and how you can turn it into an opportunity, you don’t really believe that you are capable of rising over tough situations. That, of course, makes you a mentally weak person.
13. You expect immediate result.
If you expect immediate results whenever you do something, it’s possible that you are mentally weak.
Another sign is that you might prefer to buy things ready-made instead of tailor-made because it will take longer to take possession of what you ordered.
When you ask someone to change or learn something new, you expect to see a change in them almost immediately. And if you don’t, you decide that it’s a waste of time or that they are stupid.
Even in matters that involve you personally, such as your personal growth and change, you are impatient and incapable of waiting gracefully while the transformation is taking place.
You complain and make the lives of everyone around you miserable because you can’t keep your excitement or frustration in check.
14. You give up too soon.
Another sign of a mentally weak person is giving up too soon. If you constantly start something and then give up before whatever you are working on has had a chance to fully yield, you could be mentally weak. One great example is blogging.
Studies show that most people give up within 3 to 6 months of starting a new blog when it takes between a year to three years before one can expect a decent income from the blog. But it’s not limited to blogging.
People can give up exercising, writing, or saving when they don’t see the desired results within the time they have set in mind. They don’t try tweaking the strategy but instead give up.
15. You don’t know how to move on.
If you are constantly struggling to move on, it could be because you are mentally weak. Moving on from a relationship that is long over, from a death in the family or from a mistake you have made is certainly difficult.
But if you can’t see the future or don’t want to look to the future after a healthy amount of time has passed, you become stuck in a place where you don’t belong. If you find yourself missing your past, wanting someone you had in the past, or constantly sad that your life is not what you imagined it to be at this point in your life, it could be because you don’t really know how to move on forward.
16. You get jealous.
Jealousy really is a sign of insecurity. If you are jealous of others, you are basically telling yourself that you and what you have are not enough.
If you get jealous when someone gets close to your significant other, it’s because you are not convinced that what you have with your significant other is stronger than the temptation to stray.
When someone is better than you at something, you gossip about them because you don’t believe that you can do it too. So, you denigrate them and downplay other people’s achievements because it makes you feel better about yourself when in fact, you are just weak.
17. You can’t accept what you can’t change.
When you realize that you can’t change something about yourself or your circumstances, you resort to dangerous, sometimes stupid solutions.
For instance, when those who can’t accept a physical attribute of theirs such as the size of their breasts or the shape of their nose turn to plastic surgery.
Or when those who can’t get over the death of a loved one resort to drinking every night and day to numb the pain and forget what happened.
If you find yourself doing senseless things to avoid the normal stuff in your life, you just might be mentally weak.
18. You avoid failure and every possibility of failure.
One of the most obvious signs of a mentally weak person (and a personal favorite of mine) is avoiding failures and all possibilities of a failure. I say it’s my favorite because failure is one thing that I encourage more of in everyone’s life through Brazen Living.
If you go to great lengths to avoid trying new things and giving your dream a fighting chance because you are afraid of failing, you are definitely a mentally weak person.
By eliminating the possibility of all failures, you also eliminate the possibility of great success. If you only attempt things that give you a large measure of confidence that you will succeed, you are not bold enough to take risks and try the impossible.
And that is a sign of mental weakness because you are capable of so much more.
19. You try to control others.
If you are constantly trying to control what others say, do, and believe, it could be because you are not strong enough to deal with things if and when they don’t go according to your plan.
It’s the same thing as putting the blame on others for all your failures, suppressed dreams and unmet wants and needs. It might be because you put a lot more weight on other people’s contributions to your success and happiness than your own.
And you don’t know how to carry on or make things work without the role of others in your life. The more you have designed your life to give you happiness and contentment by your actions alone, the more you will actually find them, regardless what others in your life do.
20. You don’t know how to oppose views without getting angry.
Only those who are mentally weak are unable to share their views with someone who disagrees with them without getting angry or taking things personally.
Matters like religion, racial differences, lifestyle choices and political affiliations can undoubtedly spark heated conversations.
But a person who is mentally strong will be able to articulate their thoughts and arguments without getting emotional. They can agree to disagree. And they don’t feel the need to convince others to change their mind in order to remain at peace with their own beliefs and convictions.
If you are constantly getting emotional in conversations and disappointed over differing opinions, it could be that you have not accepted your own views.
21. You don’t know what you want.
If you don’t know what you want, what you like and what you think you should be doing most of the time, it’s possible that you are mentally weak.
If you are constantly asking for other people’s opinions when making even the smallest decision such as where to eat or where to go on a holiday, you are likely more comfortable just following other people’s ideas than developing your own.
As a result, you end up giving others the right to dictate what you should do. If you look back and realize that you have always done what others in your life tell you to do, or what other people do, it could be because you don’t really know what you like or want in this life.
22. You are afraid to voice your opinion.
We are all afraid of voicing our opinions in certain situations. But that doesn’t mean we suppress it every single time at home, work, or out in the public. If you are really timid and avoid voicing your opinion when you really should, it could be a sign that you are a mentally weak person.
For example, you learn that the management of your company is planning to introduce a policy that you know will affect the productivity of your department. But you choose to say nothing to them.
You let them introduce the policy because you are too afraid to go against authority.
There are usually other risks involved such as losing your job or popularity with the management, but the fact is that you let these fears from voicing your opinions in all situations.
23. You don’t know how to adapt.
If you don’t know how to adapt when in an unfamiliar or uncomfortable situation, it’s likely because you haven’t had enough practice in adapting to new situations.
So, when presented with this situation, you are at a loss for what to do. You are not strong enough to think on your feet and figure out ways to make yourself comfortable again.
You can’t find a way to adjust and fit in. As a result, you are awkward, incapable of having meaningful conversations or worst, you run away and hide where you are most comfortable.
If you actively run away from social events attended by people who are unlike you for instance, it’s a sign that you are mentally weak.
24. You worship superficial things.
One of the clearest signs of a mentally weak person is the way they respond to temptations.
If things like beauty, money, social status and lavish lifestyle have a way of attracting you and turning you away from the person that you actually are, you are more than likely a mentally weak person. A mentally strong person is able to resist superficial temptations for temporary thrill by being rooted to who they are. They don’t change their lifestyle to fit in with the rich and famous and they don’t say things just to be accepted by an influential group of people.
Well, those are my signs of a mentally weak people. What do you think? Do you exhibit any of these signs? Leave a comment below, I would love to know.
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